Fifty before fifty (move)


I’m not going to lie. I thought about writing an inspirational, upbeat, positive, beat-the-odds kind of post. I wanted to say “I’ve arrived”, “I’ve overcome” something, and to feel fresh-faced and ready to face the world again with a spirit of wonder. To stand on a hilltop with my arms spread wide, and say “this was soo worth it”. Well, that’s horse shit. This is not going to be that post

It’s not that I don’t agree with those things. I do. I want to. I just can’t – won’t – put forward a face of smiling gratitude until the flesh underneath it is smiling and grateful, too.

It’s the eve (more or less) of my fiftieth birthday. That’s okay. I’m okay with that part. What I’m not okay with, is this gnawing realization over the past year or two, that I’m gone. Essentially. Something in me has given up, gone away, resigned itself with a deep and disturbing recognition that I didn’t make it. I’ve realized that I’m not special. I used to believe that somehow, some way, I would get to the other side and be amazing. Successful, inspiring. I believed – in my bones – that I would awe the doubters and the critics. That’s the way it was going to end – I just knew it. I really did. But – here I sit, forty-nine and all the bits of me that believed that, are dropping like flies. They are falling away like slow-cooked meat from a bone. No longer a part of the central force that held them.  I’m not special. The rules of life I had envisioned – the order that dictated “you will win/overcome/show them/succeed/be happy” – have dissolved, if they ever existed. I’m not clear on whether I’ve fucked up, or the naivete of earlier years has just been shaved clear. I don’t mean any of this facetiously. Some part of me expected great things. Not riches, or fame – none of that – but to feel accomplished, to have reached my goals – the ambitious ones; the ones that made people raise their eyebrows or chuckle involuntarily.

Maybe it’s because when I was younger, I did. I travelled when I wasn’t supposed to, I stood up to bullies when my heart had been ripped open by them, I learned music faster than most, I thrived in University despite being labelled the dummy in the family, I was accepted into every post graduate program I applied to, received scholarships and accolades. I graduated medical school and thought “this is it” when people started calling me “Doctor”. I married someone I thought was quirky and fun and amazing. I had two beautiful kids, and then adopted another one – I wanted a daughter and I got her. All my life I had wanted to own a horse, and finally, at age 30, I did. My life was complete, I thought. I had arrived, things were going to be beautiful. We had a lovely house and three young children, but it was even before then that I knew things were changing. I was being swallowed, squashed, held under for just long enough to realize my mortality and brought back up for glimpses of what was slowly being eaten away. I know it sounds silly. There is so much more history than I can put into words just now. There is so much I have to be grateful for – even when things were bleakest. But there are also the darker parts, the emptiness, the slow hemorrhaging of everything hopeful.

But even when I ran from all of that, separated from my marriage, I thought again: this is it. Now I can do it. It, meaning everything. Let my life explode. I was certain things would move at hyperspeed and I would catch up, eventually equilibrating in the place I had always known I would end up…. But instead, things slowed. Insidiously at first, but when the weights of life kept piling up – small pebbles at first, and then boulders and quarries without any spot to put them down – I sank. I’ve been treading water for ten years. And for the first few, I kept expecting that the clouds to part, but they didn’t.  I had nothing left. I was still treading water, but the drive to find any shore – had simply vanished. I was just treading water because I was out there. On the water, and that is what one does. I stopped looking around for exits, for life rafts, stopped devising plans for efficiency of stroke. I just was. I just am.

I don’t know what’s on the other side of this – or if there is another side – but now as I edge closer to fifty, I’m suddenly feeling the urgency to stir up the waters. To create ripples. Not swimming exactly, but rather creating turbulence. I need to.  Who knows what that will affect and how, but I do know this: inertia is our enemy in life. And we fight it by starting to move. Simple. I know that sounds so silly, but it is the truth. Move. So I’m going to do fifty things before I’m fifty. Move. Fifty things I haven’t done, or have left/dropped a long time ago and that hold some meaning for me. Fifty. Move! Before I turn fifty (a year from now). I don’t even have a full list yet. But I’m starting somewhere. Move.


Yellow Chair Review – Flash Fiction

Well, this is cool. The Yellow Chair Review is a lovely online literary journal that publishes poetry, fiction, and nonfiction on a quarterly basis. Check it out! I am absolutely honoured to have one of my stories included in their latest Issue. You can read it here, if you like.

Here’s to a positive, creative, and productive day!

Harvest – tlt week 24


Hanging in the air

The sweet, raw smells of harvest

Fading in the sun

© Nadia Brown

Farm and country – and all the smells, textures, sounds that go along with them – are my happy place. Born and raised in the city, the constrained bustle of it has always felt confining; it’s never been ‘home’.

Thank you, Sonya, for this 3 Line Tales weekly photo prompt!

Photo by Emiel Molenaar, who has some gorgeous photos on his website!!

The Commute – 3 Line Tales


There was always such exquisiteness in leaving; an aching tug that rose from the depths and made her smile against her will. She hesitated on the dock, boarding pass in hand, discerning the clinking buoys beneath the pier from the steady hum of the ferry’s engine. If she closed her eyes, she could feel the water tugging against the pier from below. The gentleness of wave against wood belied the force with which it would spit the dock from its moorings and send it ass over tea kettle into the Pacific. If it wanted to. For a moment, she stood in awe at the raw power she rarely questioned. The ocean that could silence a pier, a vessel, a life – lapped with a calm indifference at her feet. It was the indifference, she decided, that kept her coming back. Not this time. This time, she’d brought her things -and left him sleeping in a cloud of his own stupor.

Without a word, she settled her bag around her shoulders and headed to the ramp to board. Soon, the clinking of the buoys would fade amidst the chatter of morning commuters, disappearing completely as she waited in line to purchase her return.

© Nadia Brown

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Photo by Charlie Hang

The Rhythm of Things – 3LineTales


All these things I haven’t done, packed neatly into their dark, square drawers. Cramped and contained, awaiting their turn. One thing at a time, my teachers always said. Patience! Gently! Too many at once and the whole system topples. Follow the system; follow the priorities.

I tap tap tap the little squares. Gently, in rhythm. Like a metronome. Tap tap tap, as though they were piano keys. Softly, my piano teacher used to say. Gently –  imagine you have boneless hands. And my boneless heels tap tap the rhythm – until all the things I haven’t done are flying wild and free. Staccato! The music said. Presto agitato!  Which I do think means a good swift kick.

© Nadia Brown

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Photo by Rosan Harmens